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06-02-2006, 08:26 AM
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officially "uninvited"
OK I have to vent to you ladies. My husband just told me that his brother, his wife, and thier new ( 8 wk. old) baby are going to a mutual friends pool tomm. We were not invited b/c it's going to be couples with kids - OUCH! That hurts! it pissed me off (to say the least). it's hard enough beating my own self up - but to have others help?
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06-02-2006, 08:33 AM
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Sorry... that's kinda rude... Like you need to have kids to enjoy a pool? And you can always be an extra set of adult eyes to watch the other kids... what sense does that make?
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06-02-2006, 08:48 AM
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That's so rude. I know the feeling though. I no longer have any close friends because they all have children and I guess I'm the odd one out. So they all have their own Mommy and Me playdates and cancel plans with me. Nevermind the fact that I've known them my whole life and they know my issues...
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06-02-2006, 09:52 AM
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That seems a little on the rude side. Maybe you should have a party and officially uninvite them to an adult only who have no kids party.
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06-02-2006, 11:11 AM
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that is awful! i'm so sorry. i'm in a similar boat to what judy was saying. my closest friends all have kids and i've been feeling very left out and alone. it's really a weird thing that we all go through with infertility. we don't fit in with the people who have children (the fertile myrtles) and we don't fit in with the people who don't want or aren't ready for children... we are like our own special group of people...
i actually got an im yesterday from a friend of a friend who also has fertility issues (non-pcos). she just wanted to check in and see how things were going - and update me on how she was doing... our mutual friend recently had a baby and has been mia ever since so i think she must be feeling just as lonely and neglected as i am... anyway - we made lunch plans for next monday. we don't have much in common except our friend and our fertility issues (oh - and her husband who it turns out was one of my sisters high school boyfriends!! small world!!!) - but we really connect when it comes to the whole baby issue... my point was it's nice to find other people who actually get what we are going through and we don't have to sugar coat what we say and do around them - like all of the wonderful women on this board!!!!
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06-02-2006, 11:13 AM
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Waht do parents miss the most about being more available, doing things they used to do and loved before the kids (not that they dont want the kids just thinking about when they had more freedom). maybe you could have a party of some kind but only for those without kids. Ok its spitefull and I wouldnt really do it but I am a bit pmsy and when selfish people do things likt that I want to hit them where it hurts (only when Im pmsy)
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06-02-2006, 11:39 AM
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Yikes Ash- Boy that stings. I haven't had that exact scenario happen since I left the place where all my friends were having babies and moved to a new place where everyone my age already has babies, but we're able to still make friends with the singles and newlyweds. We just feel OLD in that crowd where they're still bar hopping and we're ready for suburbia :shock:
Before I left though, I thought I'd volunteer to babysit so I could get some practice in. One of my friends ( ok not so close friends) said "are you sure you know how to do this, you know with you not having any kids?" Duh. No one has kids before their first! Geez, it's not really that difficult to get through a couple of hours, and I had little sisters! Anyway, I'll get off my own soapbox but I will say that, there are other friends to be made out there, you'll join their pg & motherhood ranks soon, and don't worry they might actually be jealous of your freedom. Besides, I went to one get together where there were only babies and moms and I left feeling depressed and not being able to relate to diaper rash and such. Maybe a silver lining in there somewhere? |
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06-02-2006, 12:19 PM
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That is just mean and ugly. I am so sorry to hear about that. You have every right to be upset. WOW some people have balls!!
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06-02-2006, 12:45 PM
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do they know your ttc? i cant wait for my friends to start doing that to me.. people stink
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06-02-2006, 12:57 PM
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Been there
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I've been there, we didn't get invited to a kids b-day party cause we didn't have kids, but the rest of our friends do... But then again, when we do get invited, the women spend the entire time talking about breast feeding... You can't win |
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