ikwewi
06-26-2007, 10:14 AM
Hello Folks,
It has been a LONG time since I've posted a message but I have found myself with some real huge choices to make and hope that some of you ladies can share your advice and opinions with me!
I'm happily married. My husband is my best friend and we've been together for almost 10 years. The thing that makes me the most happy is the life I've been able to build with him and the work that I've been able to do in communities.
I'll be 30 this fall and we would like to become parents within the next couple of years. I am willing to try Met to see if it regulates my cycle thereby allowing me to become pregnant but I am not sure that I am willing to go as far as Clomid or IVF etc. (for my own ethical reasons). If my body just will not respond to Met and there is little else for me to try then we are okay with Adoption.
At the same time, we are just finishing graduate school (presenting out thesis in July) We have professional goals of working at academic institutions so that we can have an academic schedule and have holidays, weekends and summers to be with each other and our children...plus, the benefits can be great!
But we are both still building up our careers and have a lot of student loans to pay off and after a year or two of paying off student loans (making double payments etc.) we want to buy or build our own home. The truth is that we've been together for almost 10 years and have never taken a honeymoon. We tend to work 7 days a week and although we always take time for each other (every day even if it's just going for a walk together) we are in need of a relaxing break!
So it seems like EVERYTHING is needing to happen right NOW!
We've both been applying for different jobs and we were both offered positions that are basically dream jobs for us! The problem is that my job was offered to me in NM and we live in MA. I did apply to positions in New England but had no luck.
I will have to separate and spend months at a time living across the country off and on for at least the next year. This is not something I want to do forever but it will be great for my career and our budget...it is my dream job...just wrong location. The other problem is that I don't know anyone out that way and all my doctors are in MA.
My husband and I both want children in the next couple of years (after we are back living under the same roof 12 months a year) and now that summer is here we were thinking that we basically have two choices right now: Oh, my husband is leaving this decision totally up to me...he is great!
Choice A: We think this is likely our last summer as just the two of us, with health insurance and not having to work 40 hours a week....so we may as well enjoy it! Relax a little, take a couple weekend trips and enjoy each other...especially because I will miss him so much come September! The other thing is that we've been together for almost 10 years and still haven't taken a honeymoon...so, this is a first for us to have time to enjoy each other. If I do this then I will likely not begin Met for another year.
Choice B: Or since I may have about 5 weeks (starting at end of July) where I don't have to work 40 hours a week should I take this time and start Met? First, I don't even know if that is really enough time to get used to Met? Right now I am exercising, eating well, and going for weekly acupuncture. I am not overweight, do not have severe acne (although I do have some) and my lab results do not come back showing elevated insulin levels or IR (although I know that is part of the pcos problem) but my testosterone is very high and I don't get a cycle. I know that Met can have some bad side effects and wonder if having the option of doing this at home (near my own bathroom) is one I should take?
This would mean that I stick close to home while taking this med but then I can see how I tolerate it, and make sure things are going good before I head out for work. If I don't start this summer, I have debated starting it all alone in a new city where I don't know anyone or have my own car and I don't have a doctor that I know....so I'd be on my own for months at a time. I also don't want the experience of having to have some sort of bathroom emergency while on an hour long bus ride to my new job!
Of course, I know that one never knows what kind of reaction they will have when starting Met. I know that some people indeed have no bad side effects but MANY people do. I'm actually someone who had a bad reaction on b/c pills and am sensitive to many kinds of medication....which is one reason why I've put off trying Met....that and always hoping that something else would regulate my cycle and cause ovulation.
So what do you all think? Those of you who have taken Met...knowing what you know now...Do you think you would have been okay taking it 5 weeks before making a major move and starting a new job?
Do you think it's wise for me to wait a year (once I'm closer to home)?
Also, for any of you who have normal level lab results for insulin, are lean, small-frame and could go years without having a cycle...did Met work for you when you tried it? Did you ovulate and have a cycle? Did any of you become pregnant on just Met or did you have to combine other drugs like Clomid when you began trying for a baby?
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It has been a LONG time since I've posted a message but I have found myself with some real huge choices to make and hope that some of you ladies can share your advice and opinions with me!
I'm happily married. My husband is my best friend and we've been together for almost 10 years. The thing that makes me the most happy is the life I've been able to build with him and the work that I've been able to do in communities.
I'll be 30 this fall and we would like to become parents within the next couple of years. I am willing to try Met to see if it regulates my cycle thereby allowing me to become pregnant but I am not sure that I am willing to go as far as Clomid or IVF etc. (for my own ethical reasons). If my body just will not respond to Met and there is little else for me to try then we are okay with Adoption.
At the same time, we are just finishing graduate school (presenting out thesis in July) We have professional goals of working at academic institutions so that we can have an academic schedule and have holidays, weekends and summers to be with each other and our children...plus, the benefits can be great!
But we are both still building up our careers and have a lot of student loans to pay off and after a year or two of paying off student loans (making double payments etc.) we want to buy or build our own home. The truth is that we've been together for almost 10 years and have never taken a honeymoon. We tend to work 7 days a week and although we always take time for each other (every day even if it's just going for a walk together) we are in need of a relaxing break!
So it seems like EVERYTHING is needing to happen right NOW!
We've both been applying for different jobs and we were both offered positions that are basically dream jobs for us! The problem is that my job was offered to me in NM and we live in MA. I did apply to positions in New England but had no luck.
I will have to separate and spend months at a time living across the country off and on for at least the next year. This is not something I want to do forever but it will be great for my career and our budget...it is my dream job...just wrong location. The other problem is that I don't know anyone out that way and all my doctors are in MA.
My husband and I both want children in the next couple of years (after we are back living under the same roof 12 months a year) and now that summer is here we were thinking that we basically have two choices right now: Oh, my husband is leaving this decision totally up to me...he is great!
Choice A: We think this is likely our last summer as just the two of us, with health insurance and not having to work 40 hours a week....so we may as well enjoy it! Relax a little, take a couple weekend trips and enjoy each other...especially because I will miss him so much come September! The other thing is that we've been together for almost 10 years and still haven't taken a honeymoon...so, this is a first for us to have time to enjoy each other. If I do this then I will likely not begin Met for another year.
Choice B: Or since I may have about 5 weeks (starting at end of July) where I don't have to work 40 hours a week should I take this time and start Met? First, I don't even know if that is really enough time to get used to Met? Right now I am exercising, eating well, and going for weekly acupuncture. I am not overweight, do not have severe acne (although I do have some) and my lab results do not come back showing elevated insulin levels or IR (although I know that is part of the pcos problem) but my testosterone is very high and I don't get a cycle. I know that Met can have some bad side effects and wonder if having the option of doing this at home (near my own bathroom) is one I should take?
This would mean that I stick close to home while taking this med but then I can see how I tolerate it, and make sure things are going good before I head out for work. If I don't start this summer, I have debated starting it all alone in a new city where I don't know anyone or have my own car and I don't have a doctor that I know....so I'd be on my own for months at a time. I also don't want the experience of having to have some sort of bathroom emergency while on an hour long bus ride to my new job!
Of course, I know that one never knows what kind of reaction they will have when starting Met. I know that some people indeed have no bad side effects but MANY people do. I'm actually someone who had a bad reaction on b/c pills and am sensitive to many kinds of medication....which is one reason why I've put off trying Met....that and always hoping that something else would regulate my cycle and cause ovulation.
So what do you all think? Those of you who have taken Met...knowing what you know now...Do you think you would have been okay taking it 5 weeks before making a major move and starting a new job?
Do you think it's wise for me to wait a year (once I'm closer to home)?
Also, for any of you who have normal level lab results for insulin, are lean, small-frame and could go years without having a cycle...did Met work for you when you tried it? Did you ovulate and have a cycle? Did any of you become pregnant on just Met or did you have to combine other drugs like Clomid when you began trying for a baby?
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new developments in Pattaya (http://pattayaluxurycondos.com)