Feeling like a woman-- Please read a comment

[Dani]

Hi everyone. I'm 19. I've known for years that I have PCOS but a part of me never really absorbed that it was true. In addition to this I have several other minor problems (which i like to refer to as inconveniences). So just one more thing (bringing me up to 12 pills a day) put me in total denial.

I have never gotten a natural period in my life. While I am not over weight, I have to work very hard just to be normal weight. The only thing I know I want in life is children, and the only time I've ever gotten a period is on birth control (despite having tried many other treatments.)

Does anyone else here not get a period at all? It feels like most people are just very irregular. What do you do to make yourself fell like a woman? Because it feels to me that getting a period is the passage into womanhood and sometimes I just feel like an "it."

[ck_blondie]

Dani,

I'm not a teen, but I saw your message on the front page when I was looking through the forums.

I just wanted to give you some hope that God made you the way he wanted you. You are like this for a reason. I went on birth control at 17 and didn't stop until 26/27. When I went off, I never had a period on my own. Finally, I got it checked out and found out about this whole PCOS thing. I had to take meds to get my period every month (since we were trying to conceive).

Hang in there! When the time comes for children, there are plenty of ways to help move the process along. (After 1 year of trying, I am currently 17 weeks pregnant.)

[jillianoel]

Hey Dani I'm 19 too and in a similar situation as you. Before I was on a birth control pill i got my period 2-4 times a year. Now that i am on the pill I still do not get my period every month. its so frustrating and i feel like im defective!!! but i have to constantly remind myself that this is the way my body is and i cannot change it. so i just focus on eating the right foods to decrease my risk of getting diabetes.

I feel the same way about having kids, being a mother is the only thing i knew for sure that i wanted in my life. to have children is my biggest dream and it scares me that i will not be able to have kids of my own. but hearing peoples success stories really helps me to stay positive so thanks ck blondie :)

[asmith]

Hello Dani,

I have been in the same boat for quite some time. In the fourth grade was my first diagnosis of pcos. I have a very severe case. I don't remember the last time I had my period and now I am 21. If I do happen to get one it is maybe only once or twice a year and it doesn't amount to much at all. The most important thing to remember is to keep yourself as healthy as possible and to remember that you are a beautiful woman and we are all here with you.

-amber

[abigaildiane]

Dani-
You are not alone at all, I'm 20, and I may get a period 1-2 times a year without birth control but that was when I was 14/15 and I always knew something was wrong with my body that I should be having a period. I have a few various other medical problems and most of them are a result of my weight. I am overweight but trying to work on that because in the next few years I will get married and be moving towards becoming a mother. I am so so so so scared that i won't be able to get pregnant that some nights I end up crying about it and needing my boyfriend to comfort me. Just know you are not alone and that I will always be able to talk about anything PCOS, as I need someone with PCOS to chat with as well. I can't say to stay upbeat and work hard on staying healthy because I struggle with it myself but I can say you're not alone in your struggle.
Stay Positive.

[ash89]

dear dani, trust me you are not alone on this one. when i was 14 years old i could already tell something was wrong. all of my friends were starting to have or already started their periods, and i hadn't yet.my mother took me to see an gyno. and the same day i was diagnosed with pcos. i was sent to another doctor as well to put onto medicine to help with my insulin resistance which i was also diagnosed with at 14. in order to have a period i have to take birth control. ive tried seeing if i could have them by myself after a year of birth control (irregular or not) but it didnt work. there have been many days where i too do not feel like a "women", but we just need to keep our heads up high and trust that god made everyone different for a reason, and we should not question his reason. you are a special women hunny so be proud :)

[curlpearl]

i'm 19 too and my story is so similiar to some of yours! Hang in there everyone and thanx for the support! Its important to come to terms with your body and accept the things that cannot be changed. The day I learned that, I made peace with my PCOS and the challenges that come with it.