what will my bf think?

[crazy_eyed_girl]

im worried about sex with my boyfriend, what if he finds all the hair on my back and bum gross? i dnt no how 2 explain my pcos and im scared he'll dump me and tell every1. he's a really sweet guy and i dnt wanna lose him but im scared he'll think im a freak.
any advice?
x

[hlh5f9]

Just be honest. I would have a serious talk with him before you guys even consider sex. You could start by explaining to him how close you feel to him, so you feel safe telling him about this other thing about you. Explain the symptoms, and explain that you want him to understand when the two of you do decide to sleep together why you look the way you look. If you aren't comfortable enough with your own body to explain it to someone else, you probably shouldn't be having sex with him in my opinion.

The first person I had sex with was very caring. I was friends with him throughout my whole diagnosis. We had never had sex but had done other things and been naked in front of each other long before I ever knew anything about PCOS, and he has been nothing but supportive of me and my body.

[crazy_eyed_girl]

thanx. i will have a talk with him soon. if he doesnt like it then he's not worth it. he shud be as comfortable as me. x

[queen_amber2006]

don't worry about what your boyfriend might think. if he loves you he will overlook those little flaws... i am head over heels for my fiance. he has stood by me through everything, including this. he is always loving and supportive of me and my pcos. when i am down and discouraged about having this disease, he is always there to lift me up. if your boyfriend cares about you like mine does, i'm sure he will understand completely!!!!

[nostrovia87]

well i know how you feel i have been in 2 major relationships the first guy was kinda put off by it at first but he got me into shaving and after a while he got used to it and he didnt know about the condition cause he was already helping me deal with a previous condition (my bp gets so low i faint) and the 2nd (current bf) doesnt care he just thinks the hair is my russian heritage and the hunger he makes fun of but all in all is understanding tommorrow im finally going to sit down with him and talk to him about it we have been together for like5 mons and dealt with alot so this we can handle...

you just need to talk with him.

[kells22]

I felt exactly the same as you!
I shaved like a crazy woman every day just to feel and look "normal" to my boyfriend. It took me a while to talk to him about it, but when i did i felt like a ton of bricks had been lifted from my shoulders! We have been together over 3 years now and are expecting our first baby. If i get down or depressed about my hairs he just say's "If i don't care, then why do you??"
Good luck telling your boyfriend, if he's a good bloke he'll love you no matter what!

[xXPoPStaRXx]

Kells 22 Congrats on the baby!

and yes like they all said...

Talk to him if he is understanding and caring then when you are ready for that commentment of having sex you don't have to be embarrased because you know he loves you and cares for you no matter what little flaws you have.

And if he's not then you don't want to do something that committed with him anyways. He isn't worth it and Your emotions would just hurt more because you had sex with him.

JMHO

~Angela