Looking for Christian friends to get prayer and support for all ths PCOS junk

[Zinnia06]

Hi, my name is Teresa. I was dx w/ PCOS back in 1994. I knew something was wrong with me though. I never had regular periods - Ever! Dh and I were thinking about having children and I knew I had to have periods to ovulate. I had no clue all the would be involved with this PCOS stuff. All the struggles it would give me, physically, emotionally and effect my every day being.
Through lots of prayer and struggle I managed to have 2 beautiful children. It took me 10 yrs. :o to have my first DS.

I would love to be able to help support you through prayer and help you through my own experiences. In my experience, PCOS is something only understood by those who suffer from it. But,I beleive that through Christ and his Love we can pray and lift each other up and help us get through those bad days, that PCOS can attribute to!

Thanks hope to get to know you!

Teresa :D

[bebe]

do praying work

[Zinnia06]

God has helped me through a lot of things through prayer. It has really helped me with my PCOS. He has brought me some wonderful friends who have lifted me and helped me through the most difficult times. Bible verses and prayer have really helped me get through. I am thankful to have that!

[ck_blondie]

It is encouraging that you have been able to have two beautiful children.

I know that there is a bigger picture at work here and everything works out just right.

[Zinnia06]

Thanks CK Blondie! - I have met some other Christian gals with PCOS. They're prayer and support have been so encouraging to me and I have made some of the strongest friendships! More so than some of my non web friends! God Bless and have a great day!

[jonquil78]

hi tresa!! i responded on the other thread. but here is good too!! keeping you in my prayers.

[ck_blondie]

Just wanted to write to say I hope everyone is doing okay this week.

It is nice to be able to talk to other people that have similar things going on.

Recently I have been talking with my minister's wife. They have two children and are having trouble TTC the third. She hasn't been dx with PCOS or anything but she had been keeping track of her temp. and all.

It is hard to relax and just let everything happen. You wake up and take your temp everyday and (for me) take medicine 12 days out of the month. How can it not be on your mind?

[Zinnia06]

I know it is so hard keeping the temps and such. I never really got all of it. Threre were times I thought I was ovulating only to find out through bloodwork, nada!
Honestly, I have to say that this whole PCOS thing is the reason my relationship with the Lord has grown to what it is.
I don't think I really understood the Lord before everything, but I thought I did.
I didn't realize it would take me 10 yrs until I would hold my 1st baby in my arms. I had a miscarriage with twins before I got pregnant with my 1st a year before. I was so mad at God. After all Ihad been throuhg and suffering, I just didn't understand why he eould let me get preg. w/ twins only to miscarry one at 9 weeks and the other at 12. I did IVF w/ ICSI with both of these pregnancies.
My 1st preg, I was overcome with fear of miscarrying. I realize I totally let go of God and my faith. But, nonetheless it broke me, one night I dropped to my knees. I truly feltdefeated. I couldn't handle anymore. I asked the Lord, you say you answer prayers. I had 3 embryos left and I asked the Lord, PLEASE, if you know I am to miscarry, PLEASE just don't let me become pregnant! I got pregnant! I took the strongest faith I have ever had, fighting through prayer Satan trying to make me think the worst. I was taking my faith that the Lord heard my prayer and I made it to the next day everyday and to just trust him. I had to pray everyday and especially before bed. I could feel Satan provoking me with bad thoughs of worry. I prayed and asked God to protect my heart and mind and that I trusted him, that I prayed to him and I did end up pregnant, so I trusted him that everything would be okay. It was life changin for me. An experience I will always have and I wouldn't change what I have been through for anything. It has made me the woman that I am.
My 2nd was a miracle. I was told I would never have children without IVF w/ ICSI. I went to do anther round of IVF 4 yrs after my 1st son. InI felt God telling me not to worry. I knew something was nto working with the IVF. I was thinking how could I not worry, it's not working, 10 yrs has proving to me this is the only way. But, I still felt that feeling of not to worry. My doctor stopped the IVF half way and said it would not work. So, the next month and a half I started my bloodwork to do IVF again. To my surprise and the nurse, she said, you are pregnant! All on our own!! God is reminding me He is in control!!
I haven't told that story in so long! So, now I have a 6 yr old boy and a 2 yr old boy!! Both my miracles!!
Sorry, I talked for so long. My hubby said it looks as if I am writing a book! LOL

[ck_blondie]

Wow, what an incredible miracle. Thank you for sharing. That really gives me hope.

During this whole TTC thing, I have felt myself move away somewhat from God. I used to read my Bible everyday, talk to the Lord throughout the day and lately I have not been that motivated. When I talk to my DH about TTC he tells me to relax and put it in the Lord's hands. I know that is what I need to do and that I or the doctors are NOT in control...but it definately is a test.

Prayer needed.

[monthlyhopeful]

ck, I did the same thing. I got angry with God and my prayers were only said because I felt like I had to, not b/c I genuinely wanted to. I finally had a meltdown and sat in the bathroom yelling at God and crying. After that, I felt better and talked with him more often and more frankly. I feel I am closer to God now b/c of it.

Always praying for my PCOS Cysters! :)

[bellabeauty]

I completely understand about being mad at God. I too, sometimes wonder why? I use to be very mad at God, for various reasons. Not just the PCOS. I've had a rough life, but this rough life has drawn me closer to him. Things will get better. You need to vent at God. It's okay, He can take it. Start praying to Him and tell him all the reasons you're so mad at Him. And ask for understand and guidance and a sound mine and peace. He loves you dearly. You are beautiful to Him in everyway!

[Zinnia06]

monthlyhopeful & bellabeauty- My meltdown was so similiar! I have realized God lets us go through things for reason we may not understand now, but in some time we see the whole picture. It makes me think of that country song, hank God for unanswered prayers. I remmeber when I wanted a baby so bad and I seriously thought I was ready and just couldnt understand why I wasnt gettig rpegnant. I was seeing all these parents who were awful to their children. Why not me! I realize God looks at us individually and makes us according to his plan. Now he doesnt use us like a puppet and we do make our own decisions, but God has given us PCOS for reasons we may never understand on this earth. But I have realized something. I had a rough life my whole life, but I do know I wouldn't be ther person that I am if I hadn't been this way. I could have had a great family and marriage with no PCOS and be so miserab;e in the fact thatI dont realize what I have. I have noticed when people tend to have it all they dont realize they have enough! They dont seem to apprecaite life in the aspect that we do. We have learned through our struggles with PCOS to see life differently. It's how we handle it, how wonderful or bitter it can be!
God has shown mw time adn time again. Read my word (the bible) everyday! Even when you think it may not help, it is. God can be at work within you when you allow his word into your life. He can do more than we could ever think imaginable.
I hope that made sense! I have had to little boys arguing this morning over toys and helping DH while trying to type this.
Plus, I feel a migraine coming!
Please pray it goes away.
I seem to get them more often now right before my cycle!

Hope you all are having a blessed and wonderful day!

[md2die4]

Hi, my name is Melissa.

Thanks firstly to Teresa for starting this thread. When I joined the site, I was a bit sceptical because I wasn't sure if I would find the kind of encouragement I needed here - FAITH-BASED. I'm grateful that I can talk about this now without feeling so depressed all the time. Been TTC for only 3 and a 1/2 years now. At first my husband and I were just living together (unmarried) and I was so convicted in my spirit about that, I was so down on myself for not being married and living in sin. I had already been diagnosed with PCOS in 2000 but wasn't really concerned about it until we started TTC. After the wedding I then started moaning and groaning with God, asking now I am married, so why not now? When then? I have a Darling Husband and he is very supportive. Also tells me every day to leave it in God's Hands and understand that it is God's timing. Hearing your story Teresa has given me hope that if I just believe and trust in God, I will also have my miracle. In God's time though.

Prayer Needed.

[jonquil78]

just dropping in to say hi. keepin you all in my prayers. it seems like i stay angry at God. i try really hard not to be.

[Ready2bmom]

I feel your pain. I really try not to question God, because I know what he has for me is for me and no one can change that but him. Its just so difficult know that you live right, you're married and have done all the right things according to God's word. Then you see these women have 3 and 4 abortions or 2 and 4 kids and don't even take care of them. They are still in the world, partying and drinking rather then caring for their children. Then you have all of us cycsters, everyday, every waking second trying, trying, trying, and trying to concieve. I've gotten to the point where I dont even ask God why, i'm now asking him why not?
Still waiting on my answer.... I do my best however, to stay grounded, and stay prayful!

[Zinnia06]

My computer was out for awhile, so this is my first day back with internet.

Hope to hear from you all soon and get caught up.

I am so glad I could start this thread. I am sure the Lord has great plans for it!! :)

How is everyone today?? I pray you are all well and have a blessed day! :D

[Ready2bmom]

Hello Zinnia!
So glad that you're back!!! I would like to ask for your prayer today! Today AF is supposed to be here and shes not. She has been known to be late but i'm hoping that she doesnt and I get a BFP!
Ive been prayful, and would greatly appreciate a little prayer from you!
Thanks
Be Blessed!
Cinn

[Zinnia06]

Cinn - I just said a prayer for you! I will be thinking about you throughout the day and continuing prayer for a positive outcome!
I know what you are feeling right now! I understand and I am hoping with you!

Pray for my boys, they're both sick. Hopefully, they be feeling better soon!

God Bless!!!!! :D

[Ready2bmom]

Done ;)
I hope that they get to feeling better soon...
Thanks again!
Be Blessed
Cinn

[LeggyluluHunter]

Hello

I'm hodling back my tears... I feel sick about to throw up... can't take the pain anymore! I just got my period this morning and my cramps are really bad! I haven't been on this forum in a long time, so I came on this morning... I saw this post... I'm a Christian and yeah... I still feel so alone... it's hard when you, I talk to people don't have PCOS... lately I've just been puttin what I have aside and not wantin to deal with it!

[Zinnia06]

leggyluluhunter - Oh sweetie - I am so sorry you are feeling all this pain! Bless you heart sweetie! I am going to lift you up in prayer right now!
Holy Father, I ask that you take my cyster in Christ and lift her up in your Holy Name! Please give her peace and strength today as she is suffering much at this moment! You know her heart and her suffering more than I could ever understand! I pray that I and other ladies can give her the support she needs in her name to get her past this diffcult time and find the strngth she needs to endure it. Father God, while we don't understnad why we have be born with this PCOS junk, we know that you will not abandon us, you will only lift us up. You will help us grow and learn from it and use it for good! Thank you Father for letting her find us here and may you guide us to give her the support she needs!
In Your Precious Name, Amen!

I am so glad you found this thread. Please use it to vent. Let it out. I know this thread just started, but you do have someone who cares for you and understands what you are going through!!!!

Lots of Love and HUGS for you today!!

Hi Cinn - how are you today! I was thinking about you and said a prayer for you!

Melissa - I just saw your post. Sorry my computer was down for a bit, and I am trying to get caught up.
How are you today?? I have some bible verses I would like to look up today and I will share them with you when I post later! I find the bible is best encourager of all!

Dana, Bella beauty - How are you doing today??

Dana - Please vent here! I will look up some verse for you to to mediate on with your anger! I know God understands your frustrations and he can see the biggger picture for you. I know that can be frustrating as well! Try not to focus so much on what brings you down. And remember wen you start to obsess over soemthing you tend to start idolizing it. Which in turn kicks God out! Love you girl!! Please share your frustrations with us. Dont let Satan wrap you up so much that you let yourself become angry at God!

Bella - I miss hearing from you. I felt like I was just getting to know you, Hope to hear form you soon!

I need to go make lunch, my kiddos are getting hunger and bad moods with each other cause of it!

[LeggyluluHunter]

Zinnia06 -Thanks! I have my peirod and I'm in alot of pain, right now! It feels like tiny knifes goin into my ovaries! More on my left side then anything! I want the pain to go away! I've taken some meds for it but it's not really helping! And it really sucks hanging out with a few guys, and unable to be like... that's why I'm in pain, curled up in a ball on the bed! *Screams! (That happened tonight. Only one of the guys knew, he's like my brother but still the other two guys where concern why I was in such pain!)

[TBrown]

Wow, it is so good to see that there are other sisters out there that understand what I am going through and what I have gone through.

LeggyluluHunter - You are in my prayers.

Zinnia06 - My DH is in the Air Force. Thank you for starting this thread. God Bless You!

Hello to All!


~Blessings~
T

[jonquil78]

I try not to let it get to me, but sometimes you just can't stop it.

[Zinnia06]

Dana - I know you have struggled and it is hard to not let it get to you sometimes. I know I have been there. You have just got to remind yourself. God is there with you!
I have this quote on my calendar - it says -

When I am afraid, Lord, it means I have strayed away from You. Please help me to stay near You and give me the faith that You will protect me.

I have found reading my bible everyday. Even one verse in a chapter everyday has changed me. Me just letting God in that much, he has done much more than that one verse! Days of feeling more a peace have always follwed. Surrounding your self with God CHrist grounded people! Even getting started in a bible study at church they have found very bebficial to people looking for Christ centered lives.

Tbrown - So glad to meet you. I hope you can join us again. It seems slow starting out on this thread, but I enjoy having to pray for those who come here. It is a true blessing to be able to pray for someone who needs prayer and to be able to be there for them.
How long has you DH been in the AF? We are old! LOL We have been in for almost 18 yrs! We are both looking foward to retirement! And settle down!!

Hope everyone is having a great and blessed day. I am going to share in my next post a wonderful email I rec'd today. Please read it, It is very inspirational!
:D

[Zinnia06]

Quilt of Holes

As I faced my Maker at the last judgment, I knelt before the Lord along with
all the other souls.


Before each of us lay our lives like the squares of a quilt in many piles;
an angel sat before each of us sewing our quilt squares together into a
tapestry that is our life.


But as my angel took each piece of cloth off the pile, I noticed how ragged
and empty each of my squares was. They were filled with giant holes. Each
square was labeled with a part of my life that had been difficult, the
challenges and temptations I was faced with in every day life. I saw
hardships that I endured, which were the largest holes of all.


I glanced around me. Nobody else had such squares. Other than a tiny hole
here and there, the other tapestries were filled with rich color and the
bright hues of worldly fortune. I gazed upon my own life and was
disheartened.


My angel was sewing the ragged pieces of cloth together, threadbare and
empty, like binding air.


Finally the time came when each life was to be displayed, held up to the
light, the scrutiny of truth.. The others rose, each in turn holding up
their tapestries. So filled their lives had been. My angel looked upon
me,and nodded for me to rise.


My gaze dropped to the ground in shame. I hadn't had all the earthly
fortunes. I had love in my life, and laughter. But there had also been
trials of illness, and wealth, and false accusations that took from me my
world, as I knew it. I had to start over many times. I often struggled with
the temptation to quit, only to somehow muster the strength to pick up and
begin again. I spent many nights on my knees in prayer, asking for help and
guidance in my life. I had often been held up to ridicule, which I endured
painfully, each time offering it up to the Father in hopes that I would not
melt within my skin beneath the judgmental gaze of those who unfairly judged
me.


And now, I had to face the truth. My life was what it was, and I had to
accept it for what it was.


I rose and slowly lifted the combined squares of my life to the light. An
awe-filled gasp filled the air. I gazed around at the others who stared at
me with wide eyes.


Then, I looked upon the tapestry before me. Light flooded the many
holes,creating an image, the face of Christ. Then our Lord stood before me,
with warmth and love in His eyes. He said, 'Every time you gave over your
life to Me, it became My life, My hardships, and My struggles.


Each point of light in your life is when you stepped aside and let Me shine
through, until there was more of Me than there was of you.'


May all our quilts be threadbare and worn, allowing Christ to shine through!


God determines who walks into your life ...it's up to you to decide whom
you let walk away, whom you let stay, and whom you refuse to let go.'


I need this back. If you'll do this for me, I'll do it for you....When there
is nothing left but God ,that is when you find out that God is all you need.


Take 60 seconds and give this a shot! All you do is simply say the
following small prayer for the person who sent you this.


Father, God bless all my loved ones & friends in whatever it is that you
know they may need this day! And may their life be full of your peace,
prosperity and power as he/she seeks to have a closer relationship with you.
Amen. :D

[ggill]

Teresa- That was really good and got me teary eyed!

I am prg with my 2nd so if it is not appropriate for me to be on here I will not be offended. It looked like most of the ladies were TTC, and I dont want to be a painful reminder. I just wanted to stop in and say hello and would like a christian place to chat. I often think of those TTC and say a prayer. It was a hard journey and I cant imagine how hard it is for the ladies who have to go through so much more than I did.

[Zinnia06]

ggill - No, I think this is great place for you to be and I understand where you are coming from and being gentle with everyone's feelings. I think although one who is TTC and those who have concieved or already have children should not be a factor on whether you should be here or not.
I meant for this to be a place for anyone to come who neede support for all they are going through, including PCOS! PCOS effects us so much more than TTC. It's just that TTC seems to end up consuming women's lives with POCS. There are so many of us who has to go through the TTC process, so you will see more of that that other stuff, because it creates such a hardship on your life and heart! TTC

But, I think it's great. You are an example of what God can do and YES! You can conceive with PCOS! I know quite a few women with PCOS and they have already have kids, are still TTC or just moved to adoption or foster children.

If anything you are enocuragment in a life for us where somedays encouragment doesnt feel like it is on our side! Like it will never happen for me!

That's what this thread is for. For encourgement and prayer for those having a hard time because of PCOS and other things in life. Because we all need prayer for something even if it's not PCOS junk!

HUGS! I hope you stick around! I would love to be a support for you! I sure enjoy meeting others who know what PCOS is like and can understand me! HUGS!!

[Ready2bmom]

@Zinnia~I was out of commission for a minute, but im back. To bring you up to date I was a BFN. I've completely given up and given it to God. I pray everyday that it happens on his time and his time only. Ive let go; im not trying any longer, but im also not preventing. I have to tell you though I feel so much peace with it, because I know what God has for me IS for me. I remaining hopeful and prayful....
How have you been?

@Leggyluluhunter~ Im so sorry that you're having a hard time. There are so many people that are not aware of, and have no idea about PCOS. There is however someone who does God and us cysters here on this site. Hopefully by speaking with Him and us we can help you keep your head up...im praying for you girl!

[Zinnia06]

ready2bmom - I am sorry to hear. I definetly kept you in prayer. I know how disappointed you must feel. Please now it easier said than done! It's okay to feel frustrated adn need breaks. I did take 2 couple months breaks in my 10 yrs TTC. I had to. I felt so overwhelmed even when I didn't want to be! It may do you some good to take soem time adn step back. Take it as a fasting time in your life and give all your troubles to the Lord all your heartaches, so he can truly show you his direction for your life. FInd yourself in his care again and know he is there and real!

After finally having my kids, I look back and see what TTC did to me and my marriage. I became more obbssessed than I thought I was. I totally DID NOT live my 20's. There gone!! I was given 10 glorious years to celebrate having a husband and our life and him and I didn't. Having a abby became more important to me and I forgot what God had already given to me!

Someone once told me. God has a picture of your life. He see beginning to end! He hears your prayer and evaluates your life and he knows when the best time will be! Becasue you asked him to help you. You have got to trust in that. Even if you chose to continue TTC with or without meds, He will help you when he saw which area of your life was the best time. I can testify - God was right making me wait 10 yrs! I see why know. He did answer my prayers, but becasue he loves me and my children so much, he knew when it would not only be best for me but FOR THEM as well!

Hold fast in your heart! He is with you and so I am I. I will always be hear to pray and support you. God Bless! I hope you have a wonderful night sleep and a great day tomorrow! :)

Good night everyone, I am going to bed!

[Ready2bmom]

@Zinnia~ WOOOWWWW, the Lord couldnt have said it better himself, but beautifully spoken through you. Those words of encouragement definitely put a smile on my face this morning. Thank you for being so uplifting!!! I really appreciate it! I have definitely decided, however, to let go and let God. I will continute to take the Met ya know to help with the insulin resistance and to help regulate my cycles. I had my yearly examine this morning and my RE seems pretty certain that when the time comes that I will be able to conceive on my own....lets hope so!!! Please continue to keep me in your prayers as I will do the same.

Be Blessed
Cinn

[ggill]

I just wanted to post on God's time. We were lucky that my family doc has PCOS and was wise to mine. We didnt have to spend a year or more wondering what was wrong. I went straight to clomid when we started TTC. It took 5 rounds of clomid, trigger shot, back to back IUIs and 1500 of met to get prg through an RE, my OB was clueless. Along with the PCOS when I did my HSG, check my fallopian tubes, one came up blocked. I dont know if it clamped during the testing or if it is really blocked. My RE would only do the IUIs when I had a follie on the left side, which wasnt blocked. So through a high risk prg due to diabetes, insulin dependent, we had our beautiful baby boy in Feb of this year. We decided not to go on any form of birth control just in case, and on God's time we were prg on our own and found out when my son was 5 months old. I thought I was 1 month prg because I thought I had a period, it was 7 days and heavier than usual, I figure normal for a 1st period aft having a baby, I was so excited to get AF on my own, it hadnt happened in years! Turns out I was already 3-4 weeks prg when I had AF. So far everything is healthy and fine with the 2nd blessing. My 2 will be exactly one year apart so this is definitely God's timing and I am so thankful he knows best! I will continue to pray for you ladies to have strength and for God to bless you with Los!

[cweekly]

:rolleyes: Hello, thank you sooo much for this website first off. I was dx with PCOS about two yrs ago in 2007. Im at a stand still because of lack of good doctors that know and are helpful with PCOS. Does anyone know of any around the Ohio (newphila, dover, canton) area???
IT would be much appreciated.
My husband and i are more "health alternatives and natural" so is there a menstraul regulator out there other than the actual birth control pills? I dont want all those chemicals.
thank you all ..

[Ready2bmom]

@ggill~ Congrats! Im sooooo happy for you and your Dh, keep us posted!!!

Be blessed
Cinn

[ggill]

ready2be- Thank you!

cweekly- I sent you a PM, but the doc is more about TTC so i dont know if it will be helpful or not. I can ask around though.

[Nancy08]

I'm happy to know how big was your faith Teresa.
surely, God will never fail you.
Just keep on praying.

But of course, my heart is here to talk with God about this.

“There is no feeling more comforting and consoling than knowing you are right next to the one you love.”

“Other things may change us, but we start and end with family”

[jonquil78]

hi all, just wanted to ask for prayer. we have been having some flooding here and it is bad. we have had 9 deaths (that are known) and many of the roads and bridges have been washed out. i myself am ok. no damage or anything, but there is a lot of damage and stuff around. in the neighboring county there was even a 2 yr swept out of his father's arms when their home was washed down the creek. they had to sit there in the creek hanging on to trees for 5 hrs knowing their son was dead.


cinn-how are you guys--are you affected by all of the flooding?

[Zinnia06]

Hey everyone - How are you all doing today!
I just looked through and saw that I never got an email that you all posted, so I am so sorry that I did not get back to you all sooner! I was just curious and bam here all of you are posting.
We know something is still going on with our ocmputer. It always redirecting us on our search engines and we don't get all our emails. I hope we don't have a virus, but something is definetly not right.
I have had migraines since Friday. I still have a small one, so I can't be on here long.
Being that said, I am going to get back to you all later when I am up to it, but I want to make sure I read all your posts first!

Please note that I will being praying for each of you that asked for prayer! Hopefully, I can get back on here and chat soon!

God Bless! :)

[ck_blondie]

Hey -
It's been a little whiles since I've been on this website. I was out of town and just trying to give myself a break from all the PCOS stuff.

My husband and I have been married for 7 years. In the beginning we weren't sure whether we wanted children, so I was on the pill.

For years - friends and family asked us if we were having children and some were just rude about it. Finally, they quit asking.

Within the last year, we have been TTC. I am on my second round of serophene (clomid). Our families do not know that we are trying. I am a pretty private person and I don't want to get anyone's hopes up.

We were at a family get together this last weekend. One of my husband's aunts came up to me and said "I have a question for you that is none of my business. Are you guys wanting children or having problems TTC?" I was shocked, hurt, whatever else.

Since they don't know I have PCOS or that we're TTC, I tried to brush it off by saying - it's not totally out of the question. If God wants us to have one, we will.

I was just upset about it because like she said - it wasn't her business...and she's my mother n laws sister...so not like I'm going to tell her anything because I feel like she'd tell the mother n law. And she has been wanting a grandbaby forever...

Just wondering if the people in your lives know that you're TTC and if you think that makes it easier?

Am I weird for not wanting to talk about it with any of them?

[QueenFroggie]

Hello ladies! I would like to join here if you don't mind :) As Ggill said, I don't want to impose myself here if it would cause hurt or bad feelings. But it is nice to have a place to go openly to ask for prayers about all the issues related to our annoying condition, PCOS.

CK-- for me we didn't tell people that we were TTC until we had been trying for 2 years (when I got diagnosed). We had hinted at the possibility in the future but didn't tell anyone. I found once I was diagnosed it was nice to have the support of my family and their prayers about our TTC, and I had wished I had told them sooner. Now, that being said, I was more open with my mom and sister at first, eventually told my dad. I didn't go to extended family, and I wasn't close enough to my in-laws to fill them in. I think that Dh told his dad when talking to him once we started telling people, but I didn't. Now, after having our DD, I refer to the struggle we had TTC and how thankful we are for her, and my condition more often to family even extended family. It took me a while to come to terms with the condition, to become more knowledgeable about it to where I felt comfortable talking about it.

[gatorgirl]

I think that it depends on you and your personal feelings. DH and I have told everyone when we started this past Jan, but everyone has known about my PCOS since I was diagnosed, so there was no secret in it taking a while for us to get pregnant. We have also told our families that adoption is most likely in our future regardless if we have a child on our own or not. Both families are very supportive and understanding. No One really asks what is going on, just asks us how we are doing.(emotionally,etc)I am very up front about my hot flashes or "power surges" while on chlomid, and believe you me everyone who is around me when one comes on, knows what is going on!!! lol...

But anyways I don't think it is a bad thing about keeping it a secret, but you know yours and his family and if you think that you will gain more support from them than aggrevation then I would tell them, if not then best to keep it to yourself. Good Luck

[ck_blondie]

Thanks for your replies.

It was just so hard in the beginning of our marriage because all his cousins were preganant (at what seemed like the same time) and some of his family kept asking over and over and over - when we weren't even trying.

I'm just afraid that if we tell them, they won't be able to quit bugging us about it. :confused:

My Mom and a few close friends know that I have PCOS, but I don't think I feel like going into that...and then....If I tell them that one of the conditions is that it's hard to conceive then I think everyone will jump to that conclusion on their own and we (I) don't need that extra stress.

On the other hand, I'm sure there are a few that would be supportive...I guess maybe if the time seems right, we might tell...

[QueenFroggie]

Ck -- every family is different and it is a personal decision. For me, I explained to my mom and sister that we were TTC, BUT that I had been diagnosed with a condition called PCOS which has been making it difficult for us. And that at the point when I told them we had already been trying for 2 years. So they knew upfront that it was going to be difficult for us, and I told them that it was frustrating and upsetting, so they knew how I was feeling too. And it turned out that my mom had heard of the condition a good friend of her's has it, and that is how I got a lot of my information and found out about this support board. Not saying you will have the same happen, but you may be surprised with the reception of the information.

[Zinnia06]

Can PCOS cause depression?? - like your hormones being messed up and all. Can it cause you to have moods like that!? I seem to be getting the blues a lot more often and I can't figure out why!

[jonquil78]

tresa--yes it can cause depression. i suffer with it from time to time.
Queen--welcome & i love your DD b-date, because it is mine also!!!

ck--not all of my family knows, and only a few of my dh's family knows. it can be good and bad.

welcome all!!!

[ggill]

Ck-I told my mom and a good friend, I regretted telling my mom bc she told a few, who told a few. I was not to happy. When we were going through TTC, it was hard bc I wanted prayers, but I didnt want everyone to know. My dh did tell his boss, and in the end more people knew that I wished to know. I dont mind talking about it at all now though, but if/when we TTC again I will probably only tell DH :) and my good friend.

jonquil- How are you doing? That is terrible to hear about the 2 year old, that poor family...

Zinnia- I hope your migraines are subsiding

My DH works for our church as the worship director. He does not have a degree in music/ministry but has done a great job for the last 5 years. He has never been reprimanded, had a poor evaluation, ect. Every now and then someone from the congregation makes a comment about preferring hymns ect. In the last 2 years our pastor left and we have on a new pastor and youth pastor. We are a portable church. The 2 new pastors are a little shady sometimes and my DH has a difficult time getting to know them. Well they were Okd by the elders to hire another pastor to work with life groups and leadership with the congregation. I guess the pastor found someone who can do that and lead worship so he asked my DH if he would like to change positions and DH would be in charge of the music at our satellite churches. THERE ARE NO SATELLITE CHURCHES!!!
They want to cut my DH to 36 hours a week, losing pay and medical benefits. I am a high risk prg and those are our only benefits. I told DH they want to push you out bc to many people would be upset if they just fired you, and they have no cause to fire you. I was so upset. I thought this might happen down the road, but was not expecting it yet. I dont even think our elders know. DH has to ask the pastor today what DH is doing wrong since the pastor thinks DH needs replaced. I have been going to this church for 15 years. We have so many friends there, if DH cant work there, we cant go there. I am so angry I dont even want to go to our church anymore and have to listen to him preach. I wish he would go back to CA. So please pray that this works out, and DH doesnt have to leave his job, though I am not sure how he could continue to work for someone who doesnt want him there.

[ck_blondie]

Ggill,

I'm sorry to hear that. We always hope we can just get along.

Is it possible to have a meeting with all the leaders and see if there is a consensus or just a couple of people that are thinking this?

I hope it works out.

[ck_blondie]

Zinnia-

I get VERY moody, especially the days I'm on the pills.

I started taking them at night before I go to bed; and that has really helped! Seems like it gets through my body and I'm almost normal the next day.

[Ready2bmom]

Hello Everyone!!
I hope you all are having a marvelous week!!

@Jonquil~ No flooding for us just lots of rain. How are things up your way? I hope you and your family are ok. Its so horrible what people are going through with all this flooding, then they expect it to rain all this weekend :(

@Zinnia~ was thinking about you today, hope all is well. Try some excedrin for migraines...that always helps me

@ggill~ I hate that you are going thru what you are going thru espeacilly since you are preg and high risk. I will stay prayed up for you and just remember God wouldnt give you anything that you cant handle. Plus, if you lose your benefits He will make a way for he has the BEST benefit package of them all!

Hope everyone has a blessed weekend, and for those who are TTC i hope ya cook one up this weekend!!!

[QueenFroggie]

ggill -- ugh, I am so sorry. :( Being as that it is at church, you would think they would understand y'alls situation (being high risk pregnancy, and already having an infant) and not require him to loose his benefits. Can he mention that to them and ask about staying full time, etc? I will be praying for you that it all works out.

[jewelsie316]

Hi all.

So I met Zinnia/Tresa on a different thread we were a part of way back when and she mentioned this to me. I miss connecting with my cysters so much after that went south. :cool: Facebook is not enough! Anyways I thought I would try this out.

I am Julia/Jewel/jewelsie. I am 27, single, ie not TTC. I have had PCOS since the beginning ie as puberty started. It is very prevalent in my family so when puberty hit it was 'yep! julia has it too!' I know many think that is a good thing...and it is...however that also means I have way too many people that hinder my attempts to watch what I eat etc and are enablers I guess. They accept me being OW etc etc so when I do start loosing weight etc...if I hit a rough patch...I don't have support to keep going...

I have recently moved to NY post grad school graduation for a job. I previously lived in PA with my grandfather and mom. The move was not hard in one sense but in another sense I am all alone in a place I do not know without friends/family.

I tried a church today and loved it! It was a Calvary Chapel, you may have heard of them. I like them, but many are too big and too crowded. this one was not so I got the great message that CC preach but also had the small church feel that I was unable to get at the CC back in PA. Plus it was right along the river so I was able to look over God's beautiful country and meditate on Him.

Wel I am going to get off here now. I need to clean. I was just vacuming when a spark came from it! I think this plug in my bathroom is not right. It has killed my hairdryer and my straigtner. It does not have one of those button thingys on it so I think it feeds to much juice to the item plugged in. IE I am going to put tape over it so I stop using it and talk to the landlord.

Love to all and can't wait to get to know you!

[Zinnia06]

ggill - I will be keeping you in prayers. Hopefully, the lOrd can open some doors for you both in this regard!

Thanks for the advice on all my ills lately! I do take Excedrin - it seems to be the only thing that works for me, but this one was very bad this time!

Can I ask you guys for your advice. There are some girls that I have on my Facebook and they seem to be using me or treating me a certain way that is very uncomfortable to me. Just seeing their name really makes me sad and hurt. SHould I just delete them from my acct.?? They really haven't been true friends but I think thye use me for things whenever they need me and it hurts.

I could use some prayer. The events that happened in my life last year are effecting me greatly still. Sometimes I let myself let the Lord in and then I seem to fall back again. My Christian counselor says I am depressed. I don't think I mentioned it here but in a nutshell, my DH came back from his deplyment, seemed different, back to the nutshell, he had an emotional affair with a girl he met over there, once back here he let her befriend me, they started a sexdual affair, still letting her become close friends to me, we seperated (while she encouraged me to keep him out and played head games with him) (he moved in with one of his subordinates and his family), this whole time emotionally and verbally abusing me, he moves back in with me and kids 2 months later, then a couple weeks later visits the the guy he was living with he wasn't home - his wife was there and made moves on my DH and the guy comes home and finds my DH and his wife in bed naked together. He turned my DH in (My DH is in the military), my DH lost his promotion and was also demoted and we lost significant pay. We have been going to a counselor (the Chritian one) adn she is good, but I am still suffering adn don't understand why? I just still hurt so much and don't know if I can ever trust him again or love him the same way. I have been oding what I feel the lord wants us to do and forgive him and I also know about divorce inteh bible. I am so confused and the kids and everything. I just feel overwhelmed and hurt adn I have gained 30 lbs since all of this. That just distraughts me so much and adds!
ANyway, could you please keep in your prayers! I would really appreciate it. I really need the Lord to carry me through right now because I can't.
Thank You in advance!

I typed a book, sorry! I better go get my kids dinner ready! Have a great evening ladies! HUGS!

[Zinnia06]

Oh Julia - I am so glad to see you here! HUGE HUGS! If I was with you right now, I would cry and hug you at the same time! I really miss you guys! :D

[jewelsie316]

Can I ask you guys for your advice. There are some girls that I have on my Facebook and they seem to be using me or treating me a certain way that is very uncomfortable to me.

Hey Tresa. I have an aunt like that. There is something called 'limited profile' where you can limit what they can see, write, read, etc. If you don't want to do that delete them! FB is suppose to be a fun place. When it isn't anymore, what's the point?

I could use some prayer. The events that happened in my life last year are effecting me greatly still. Sometimes I let myself let the Lord in and then I seem to fall back again. My Christian counselor says I am depressed..... We have been going to a counselor (the Chritian one) adn she is good, but I am still suffering adn don't understand why? I just still hurt so much and don't know if I can ever trust him again or love him the same way. I have been oding what I feel the lord wants us to do and forgive him and I also know about divorce inteh bible. I am so confused and the kids and everything. I just feel overwhelmed and hurt adn I have gained 30 lbs since all of this. That just distraughts me so much and adds!

Oh hun! You are in my prayers! I knew things were off from when we last chatted on groups but so much more has happened since then! I read in previous posts that you are reading the Bible-communing in Him. I hope and pray you continue to do that!

As for the depression, have you considered seeing a Dr? I take 20 mg of Lexapro. My prescription is from my primary doctor because it is a rather small dose. It gives me just enough *uumph* to not just sit and do nothing. I can definitely tell when I get *off* of it. I have no motivation and care about nothing. :(

PCOS messes up your hormones and has significant affects on our psyche. Research has shown woman with PCOS 50% more likely to be depressed, have more body image issues, be more critical, etc etc. I can go on and on BUT I think you get the picture-PCOS is physical AND mental :(

Remember, God is SOVEREIGN in it all! He will restore you! I hope Dave is committed as you and I hope he is searching God too. Because, I know I am single, but from everything I have heard from the pulpit-it is a TWO way street. Relationship restoration only begins and ends when both come together. (((HUGS))) and prayers to you my dear friend.

[Zinnia06]

I love you Julia! Thank You so much for lifting me tonight! Thank You for always being such a wonderful friend! I really needed to get that off my chest and I felt like I haven't had an outlet to do that! God Bless you! I will be prayig God sends you some wonderful new friends and an awesoem church int he process! HUGS! I am always here for you!! :)

[ck_blondie]

I haven't posted much, but wanted to fill you guys in that I had a BFP Sat. It was my mom's b-day too, so that made it extra special.

Praise God!

[ggill]

Ck blondie- YAY for the BFP!!! congrats!!!

Jewels- Welcome and looking forward to getting to know you!

Zinnia- About FB- I say delete! FB is suppose to be fun like Jewels said.
About your DH, I am so sorry to hear your story. I think it will take you a long time to heal and forgive your DH. I would think the depression would/could be related to your relationship with your DH. I will keep you in my prayers.

On the job front my DH talked with our pastor and explained he loved his job, asked why the pastor was looking to replace him. The pastor really didnt have an answer but did acknowledge (not in so many words) that he couldn't get rid of my DH, bc the congregation and elders would be upset. I cant help but think the pastor will continue to try to think of ways to get what he wants which would mean my DH would lose his job, but it is safe for now. Thank you for your prayers!

[Zinnia06]

ck blondie - how awesome! I am so happy for you! Congratulations! Yoo Hoo! :D I'll be keeping you and baby in my prayers!! YAY!!!!!! :D

ggill - is it appearing that it's your pastor that doens't want you DH there? It just sounded like that. I wonder why he feels that way. I mean if he has a problem with him he should address it. If so, this is not the right way to handle the situation in my opinion. I mean this is your DH source of income and his love. I will be praying for him and pastor. I am glad he has some hope on his side right now! How are you feeling??
Thanks for the supprt on DH & I. It has been difficult and sometimes I just odn't know how to deal with it. I mean he has done some other things int he past but this time what he did just really hurts and I really don't think I can forgive him this time. I know God wants me to. I just don't know if I could ever feel like he could really ever be a real husband to me and our marriage. Waking up with that thought everyday is difficult! How can one trust someone after his record. This will be techinically the 4th time he has cheated on me in 19 years! Some say I am too nice. Maybe!

Jewels - Thanks so much for lifting me up last night. It really hleped me through the night. How are you doing today?? Are you happy with you move or is it still too early to tell?? I hope I can be of support while you go through this challenging time!


Prayer request
I have a prayer request. As if my life isn't difficult already. I have had 3 hernia surgeries within 10 months, not it looks like 6 months later I will be haivng another one. To change out my mesh in my hernia repair and have a rather large polyp removed off my gallbladder and remove some gallstones! I have been in constant pain ever since my 1st suregry. This is a different surgeon. I got a new one on my 3rd repair and he is doing this one again.
I just heal and be normal again! Please pray for me, I have been through so much!

[ck_blondie]

I wish we could all post happy things, but I have a prayer request too and any advice?

My family (brothers, sister, neices and I have not been that close - long story). Recently, I've been in contact with my brother (maybe for the last year, a little less). And then, in about May of this year, we started being in contact with my neices 15 and 17.

The problem has been my brother and his wife are divorced. She has remarried but the guy is a truck driver and never home, so she's pretty much a single parent. My brother lives 1-1.5 hours away and is not involved except to send child support which isn't always regular. They don't have much money and I know that is constantly on her mind, but she doesn't do anything to help herself and she thinks my brother should be paying for everything.

Since my neices and I have been talking - they haven't had anything good to say about their mother. I try not to get in the middle of it because I want them to respect her. I've heard everything from she has hit them, kicked them out, whatever else. The one that irked be the most - my 15 yr old neice had a car wreck in June. Kind of bad - had to get a rod put in her leg - I guess one day she and the mom were arguing and the mom said "I wish you would have died in that wreck." What kind of mom says that? It wasn't until the next day that the mom "apologized" by saying - you know I was just joking.

DH and I have been praying about this for quite sometime, because you never know when/if/how to step in and help.

Yesterday morning, the grandma called and said "She says you want her to live with you?" I said, I want what's best for her and if she needs to get away from the people she's been around in order to straighten up....

Yesterday afternoon, the mother and grandparents (the 17 yr old lives with the grandparents) came by our house, stepped out of their vehicles and immediately starting yelling about the girls to my DH and me. (Stressful, considering I only found out the day before that I'm pregnant.) In the midst of all this, I can to leave because my neice (17 yr old) had called to say that her mom had pushed her out of the car. Of course, the mom says that's a lie. Either way - she was not in the vehicle anymore and I had to go pick her up and be the one to hear her crying because she just came out of the vehicle.

So, even though the adults are supposed to be adults - they're not. Arguing and bringing up the past isn't going to help. I suggested some kind of counseling - the grandma said no way. No one else said anything. They all have so much anger, I feel bad. No one would calm down and we couldn't let the girls go home after all this because it wasn't going to get any better last night.

So, they're at our house, for I don't know how long. We want to help, but not sure if my body can take all the stress? Not sure if we can afford it, especially since I'm pregant, we're going to have more bills because of that.

The are "problem children" because - they don't do their school work, been failing, need more high school credits than what they should because of failing. The one 17 yr old has been to juvey twice and been on probation since she was 14. Currently has court costs to pay and community service to do.

Too many things running through my mind - do you think it's too late for them? I'm not sure whether they want to change and I can't be dealing with constant fights about school or cigarattes or whatever else.

But, I feel like if we don't help then they really might never have a chance? I want to help, but not sure which way to go?

[Zinnia06]

Oh CK Blondie - sweetie - that is a tough one! This is definetly something we all need to be praying for and asking the Lord for some quick answers.

Hello everyone! Hope you had a great day. I need to get the kiddos to bed!

[QueenFroggie]

I am sorry I don't have time to catch up and say hi to everyone, but I hope you are all doing ok, and I am praying for you.

ggill -- I hope things start to work out for your dh. At least you know he has his job for now!

Ck -- I would say that you need to take the girls to court, present all the evidence the girls have shared about their living situation, and then you could get financial support from the mom and your brother's child support could then be funneled to you instead. With both girls being as old as they are they have a few more rights towards being able to decide and tell the court things. It sounds easy in writing, but it is worth a shot if you feel that is what you need to do. Also, start from square 1 with the girls, tell them that you have certain expectations and tell them exactly what you expect from them (behavior, grades, etc). They probably are being "problem children" because they have no boundaries or expectations set on them right now.

[jewelsie316]

Good Evening! I hope everyone remembered God in their day...be it for guidance :confused: OR praise :D.

Tresa-So sorry to hear about the news of ANOTHER surgery-heartbreaking!!! (((HUGS))) xoxoxoxo I will be praying for you for this and the other too. Has a date been set yet?

Blondie-what is a BFP again? *too late for me to remember acronyms* :p CONGRATS ANYWAYS!!! b/c I see later post it means PG basically?!? As for your family I am praying. Can anyone at your church help you with rules and guidance? also the guidance counselor at school. I understand not wanting to the stress, but if they have literally nowhere to go? First thing is to make sure your brother sends the $$ to you not to their mom-that requires paperwork though. Taht can help you with expenses. Also Big Bro/Bis Sis organization maybe? since the older one is on probation there should be a probation officer to help advise you. In addition to making sure you and your DH have help-spiritually and physically-you need to set rules and consequences if they are not followed. It is hard to be a tough enforcer, but they need your rules, love, prayers, and guidance. This is all in addition to Tresa. I am a fixer so besides the words she said-perfect-I am automatically thinking of who can help YOU set up stuff.

ggill-I am sorry about your DH and the job. That is so sad! PTL that he can not remove him without approval from congregation and elders (at my old church this was not set up so it did occur causing us to set it up). I will be praying!

update on me-the move was good. It is forcing me to find new paths...just hope those new paths lead to FRIENDS. I went to TOPS (http://www.tops.org/default.aspx) this evening. It was one of many things I wanted to do to make myself healthier but never had 'time' back in PA. With an annual fee of $26 and a $1/week you can' beat it. AND if you are the top loser you get everyone's dues. So 5 members=$5 etc etc. It is more support and guidance than WW etc. I need accountability in person. internet doesn't help. I am also staring the Alpha Course (http://www.alphausa.org/) next week and am very excited. Another thing I always wanted to do-course decided to bring you closer to God and learn more about HIM.

Froggie-we posted at the same time! hello!!!!

love to all....need to head to bed-4.30 AM too soon! :(

[Zinnia06]

Oh Froggie - you took my sleepy tired overrambling words out of my mouth!
CK, if you don't mind I am going to delete my post to you becasue I am tired and I was trying to convey exactly what Froggie just said, just in a big ramble though!

[ck_blondie]

Thanks for all your replies. I guess everything is so new and the direction is still unclear.

Last night we talked with the girls because they didn't bring that many clothes with them and I told them it'd be okay to stop after school and get a few more things from the grandmas.

The 15 year old wanted to know when they were going home. I told her "you can go back home anytime you want" - I can't force her to stay there and nothing was ever said of anything permanent. I wish her mom would have calmed down enough to talk to them this weekend because they're probably thinking she really doesn't care...sorry to say, I'm not totally convinced either.

I asked them what they wanted and the oldest said, maybe stay here a week.

I'm not sure what to tell them. I don't want them to be with us during the week and then go back home for the weekends where they'll run and do what they want.

To top everything off - I was helping my oldest set up a bow target in the yard. When I was walking back inside, her cigarette lighter was on the ground. I picked it up and put it in my pocket without saying anything. - Not sure that was enough evidence to state - I told you not to smoke. ?

When I went back inside, I picked up what I thought was my phone - my neice's and mine are the exact same. The screen wasn't coming on, so I kept pressing the button and finally it came up with a text message (Not my phone!) So, I should have stopped there, but...I didn't. Not sure how everyone feels about this. My parents would look through my things if they felt they were being lied to. Everyone thinks of this differently and I'm sorry if it offends anyone. There were texts about someone asking her what she was smoking. About some kind of "clip lighter" - something like that. Then some guy telling her he'd be up early in the morning if she wanted to stop by.

I had set the tripometer on my car to see how many miles they went yesterday. According to mapquest.com - it is 17 miles one way= 34 miles. The car had 43.2 miles on it? Did she go see the boy? How can I ask without her knowing I saw her phone...She says they went straight to school and back.

Sorry for all the long posts. I think it helps just to write it all out and get it out there.

BTW - yes, BFP is pregnant! Thanks!

[Zinnia06]

ck blondie - I am glad you have been able to vent it out and we can pray for you about it and support you! I have found it is makes them easier for me when I can vent them and I know I have support for what I am feeling without the feeling of condemantion from someone.
Being a parent is something you can't judge on until you become one. I for one used to give opinions on such matters as far as the text thing goes and other matters. But WOW! Once you become a parent you ifnd your child is the one that single people are saying he needs his bottom spankes or soemthing of that nature. Fact is, being a parent is protecting your children and their are things in their life they really aren't old enough to understand about themsleves yet or teir outcomes of their behavior. I would have looked at the phone as well if it was one of my sons.
My DSis in the 1st grade adn I am starting to realize all the extra info we don't teach in this home is getting funneled through other children whose parents don't give a hoot! I have to pay attention adn listen. He was having difficulties in the beginning this year, if I didn't get involved and check, I wouldn't have known he was suffering. ANd this is 1st grade.
Fact is you don't know where she went yesterday and by allowing her the car, you'll never know. You just have to trust her and keep an eye out. They obviovusly are involved with people who smoke more than just cigarettes and boys who invite girls over when their parents aren't home. All you can do is keep an eye and ear. ANd start putting pieces together soundly. You can't stop them from doing everything but over time when you see a pattern you can talk to them about it and pray about it with them. Getting them involved in Christ is the key here. They can never say a good course unless they get Christ involved in there life.
I have learned to not jump the gun - this pushes them further away. You start with trust, it's when they start breaking the trust they have to understand they have to earn that back! This is what life is about and with them - it's trust.
I am sure they are very confused at the moment and justplay it by ear for now and pray. I will be praying for you guys! Let God work through this for your sake and theirs!
You have this wonderful baby inside you growing inside you, so take a deep breath and see what a glorious day it is and pray and reading your bible always seems to help me when my mind seems so confused! It just makes things clear for that day or so.
I hope you have a better day today!
You're all inprayers! :)


How is everyone doing today!? :D

[ck_blondie]

It is a pretty day here. Makes me realize how lucky we all are.

Thanks to everyone for their support. It's so nice having people to talk to.

[Zinnia06]

AMEN!! :D I am glad I have you all to talk to as well!

[jewelsie316]

Blondie-ditto to Tresa-I can't help you b/c I am not a parent. I will continue to pray for you.

Love and Prayers to you all.

[Ready2bmom]

Hello All!!
Sooooo much reading to catch up on. I just would like to say that each and every one of you ladies are in my prayers!!! For the ones who ask for prayer (ck blondie, Zinnia) and the ones who did not....

@ Zinnia/Teresa~ ***HUGGGGGSSSSS*** I cant even begin to feel the pain that you feel for all that you are going thru. I can only HUG you and tell you; Cyster & My sister in Christ Everything is going to be alright! You will get thru. I know it seems hard to believe right now but you will!!!

In regards to Facebook; delete them!!!!


@ ckblondie~ Im shouting and doing the happy dance for your BFP:p:p
Congrats!!!!

@ Jewelsie~ Welcome Hun!!


Be Blessed
Cinn

[ck_blondie]

To the ladies that have been blessed with children - do you remember having spotting during your early pregnancy?

I have been for the last two days. Yesterday I went in for bloodwork and am waiting on the results. I've read that it is actually pretty common, especially around the time of your normal cycle (which it would be that time).

One of my friends recently had a miscarriage, and I have that in the back of my mind. But I keep telling myself - you're not having any cramping, so the bleeding could be "normal."

[ck_blondie]

Thanks for the prayers.

...I had a miscarriage.

[QueenFroggie]

ck -- I am so sorry for your loss :( I will be praying for you through this time.

[Sparkleprincess]

I'll be praying for you too. Keep strong in your faith. My cousin had a miscarriage for her first child and it was their faith that got them through it.

[jonquil78]

ck-so sorry. i will keep you in my prayers.

hi jewelsie!!!

hi to everyone!!!!


please keep me in your prayers--i start a new diet tomorrow.

[Ready2bmom]

Ck- So sorry

Will do Jonqil, will do!!

[ggill]

ck- I am so sorry..

[ck_blondie]

Thanks for all the prayers everyone.

Didn't mean to make this thread go dead with my bad news!

Hope you all are well.

[ggill]

Ck- I just keep forgetting about this thread. I hope something is working out with your nieces, that would be one tough situation.


On my DH's job everything is still up in the air. The pastor mentioned about DH taking a 14000 a year cut, yeah he couldnt keep working there with that kinda cut, which I think could be the pastor's intention. We are just waiting to see what happens. We do have an elder board and I am hoping they would not go for anything like that. DH is enrolling to complete his bachelors online, hopefully he will start in Jan., so we are waiting and praying.

[MrsGart]

I just found this site and what a blessing. I'm 50. I've been through all the infertility stuff, no preg, no adoptions, no children. I've had weight issues since I was 27. People assumed I was lazy, but I was a body buider before that... Anyway it took another 25 years before I was diagnosed. I had fatty liver, obesity, high chol/trig and high bp. I've been on metformin for 3 years. I'm up to walking an hour a day, 6 days a week. I'm not losing weight, but I'm turning to muscle (a by product of those androgens). I'm currently reading the left behind series for the third time. It makes the hour go faster on the treadmill (at 2.9 miles per hour). Don't give up. Start fresh each day. And know that the Lord see's every tear. 2Cor12:9 "... My grace is sufficient for you. for my power is made perfect in weakness..." His grace IS my sufficiency. I will praise him in the good times. And when I am tired, or hungry, or hurting, I will praise Him then also.
Mrs Gart:)

[Zinnia06]

This site is so slow tonight.

First off.......I never got any notifications of any of the prior posts until I decided to come on line tonight, so I am sorry I didn't know of anything until now,

CK Blondie - I am so sorry. How are you doing now? I am going to pray for you immediatley after this post. HUGS!

I can't stay on here long. I am recovering from my surgery and I am done adn ready for bed. I walked around a bit more yesterday and today and I am physically tired.

They went ahead and removed my gallbladder becasue of the large polyp and redid my mesh on my repaired hernia. After 4 surgeries, I pray this is it. I found out the results ina aweek about the polyp. I guess it was pretty descent size my doctor said. I really should go lay down, but I am thinking of you all and I hope here soon I can get back on here. Seems ike it's slowed some. I sure miss having someone with what I ahve to tlak to every now and then.

Goodnight and have a blessed weekend!! HUGS!!

[ggill]

Theresa- I hope you are recovering quickly! How are you feeling? I keep forgetting we have this thread set up, it take a few times to make a habit of checking it. Hang in there and I pray things are looking up for you!

[megs&david]

Hello! How did I miss this thread? I would love to join you all.

I have learned so much about myself and my relationship with God through TTC. DH and I ttc for over a year before we found out I had PCOS. I got in with my RE and we got pg our 3rd medicated cycle only to m/c at 7 weeks. I was devastated and super angry with God. I quit going to church for a while. I did still pray and go to our small group Bible study. There were a lot of people that told me to get over it and that I was wrong to be angry with God. I totally disagree. If I hadn't been honest and bearing my heart to God, I don't think that I would have gotten past those feelings. God is a big God and can totally handle my emotions. We got pg again and I worried the whole time I was pg. We had our beautiful daughter only to have her whisked away to surgery. She was born with a major heart defect and had open heart surgery when she was only hours old. I thought my m/c was the hardest thing I have ever been through but I was wrong. I stayed up all night and prayed with my mom and friend. We prayed and sang praise to God. It was the only thing I knew to do. It was totally in His hands. She made it through surgery and then we had the ups and downs of her recovery in the ICU. God was the only way I came our of that a stronger person. Abby is such blessing. Because of her heart condition we have been able to touch so many lives. As much as those situations were hard, I am glad that I was able to use a hard situation to help others and grow stronger in my faith.

We are currently TTC again. I thought it would be easier the 2nd time but it hasn't been. I'm still struggling with all those same emotions and doubts. I'm getting ready to start Clomid again now. I could use the encouragement again. So glad I found this thread. I hope to get to know you guys!

[ck_blondie]

HI again to all the "old" members and welcome to the new.

It is exciting to listen to everyone's messages. I pray that all works out for each of you.

Day by day things have gotten better here. The MC is easier to deal with. Went to a new doctor Tuesday. He completely agreed with everything my old doc. said...not the best, but at least they agree. :) Starting the provera/clomid again. Hoping when the timing is right, I might get pregnant again.

The nieces are doing ok. The oldest got in trouble again. Spent 3 weeks at juve. She got out yesterday. She is mandated to live with her mom and switch H.Schools. We'll see how it works. Scares me because they don't get along.

Waiting to hear more from you all.

[Zinnia06]

Okay, it did it again, I have not gotten any notifications of any posts and I got curious and found there were a few posts - so sorry to everyone!
Now that I want to catch up, I am babysitting adn it seems I need to go give my full attention to my 2 yr old. He is aggrivating the older kids!

Check in later.....I hope everyone is okay! I sure miss getting on here. I hope no one left...........

[QueenFroggie]

Please be praying for the families and friends affected by the shooting at Ft. Hood yesterday. It is so very tragic. My brother is at Ft hood, as are 2 other distant family members, and thankfully they are all ok, but there are several who are not. And something like this may have affected so many of those soldiers mentally when physically they are fine. I praise God that my brother is safe, it is a miracle that he wasn't hurt. He was scheduled to be at the building where the shootings took place, but he volunteered to help tutor some kids at a local Elem. School, so they rescheduled his appt that was on base.

[Zinnia06]

Oh Definetly, oh my heart aches to hear of this story, so tradgic! May God's Holy Spirit be upon them and their families today! May God Bless them with his peace and love!

Also, God be with you all today and your families that you may be safe and find so many reasons to be thankful today! Focus on what God has already blessed you with and let him bring all the other blessings on his time and be still and know he will be faithful! :)

[megs&david]

Queen- God was definitely protecting him. I will keep them all in my prayers.

[ck_blondie]

Hope you guys have a good weekend. I'll check back next week.

Keep smiling!

[songbirdspirit]

Hello cysters....
I realize now I have had PCOS for a long time but was diagnosed in August 2009. I had horrible cramps and heavy heavy periods, hair loss, hair growth in places hair shouldnt grow that long (LOL) and severe depression. I originally went to the DR because of my vanity(hair loss), Painful periods, and depression. Who knew all these things were related. My mom had been recently diagnosed with ovarian cancer and I was very concerned that I might have a tumor or something even worse. I was at the end of my rope because the depression had left me immobilized and I was suffering a great deal. I am usually very happy go lucky but the symptoms worsened when I was going thru a divorce so I attributed much of it to stress.

Thank God for my mom and my DR. DIANA DOWDY...She is wonderful. She is in Madison, Alabama at the Center for Women and is so detailed and motivated to treat you first respectfully and professionally. She is caring in a way that Drs have forgotten to be nowadays. She listened to me and explained every detail of PCOS after my diagnosis ( In one visit) and further explained and discussed in detail evert treatment option available to me. She was awesome!

A few weeks after I was diagnosed I realized I should ask for prayer and felt motivated to be prayed for at my church. I was healed of the horrible menstrual pain and have had very normal cyclesfor 2 months now. In fact I was so shocked by the relief of the pain I almost didnt believe I had been healed until the 2nd month of a pain free cycle. My church is located in Huntsville AL and they have Healing Rooms to pray for anyone for free on Tuesday nights. Please feel free to contact them for prayer.

www.dwellingplace.us
2550 Redstone Rd SW
Huntsville, AL 35803-2164
(256) 883-6616

ME-37 and my DH-40
Diagnosed August 2009/Healed of severe pain September 2009
currently taking LEXAPRO and YAZ
Mother to 2 boys (12 and 6) and a 15 yr old wonderful stepdaughter
GOD BLESS...SONGBIRDSPIRIT

[MrsGart]

SongBirdSpirit:
So glad you received your diagnosis. And you have children... What a blesssing! It took me 27 years to get someone to listen to me, so your Dr is another blessing. Stay in touch with the thread. I suspect you will be a wonderful Barnabus (son of encouragement) to others who are dealing with this. God Bless you girl, and your family

MrsGart
BTW, I love the Cysters... Great way to get to the heart of what brings us all together.:cool:

[pcosmommy30]

Having a daughter, for me, didn't make the diagnosis any easier. I'm angry with God. I feel like I'm being punished for anything and everything I've ever done wrong in my life. Maybe it has something to do with my divorce. I'm a Catholic looking for friends that are of similar religion.

[ck_blondie]

Do you think that you are obsessed with PCOS?

I admit, I am a little OCD to begin with and PCOS has given me one more thing to obsess over. It's hard NOT to obsess...you (I) take the provera for 7 days, then I take the clomid for 5, then I'm supposed to take my temp. all the days that I'm not on my period....How do you not obsess?

Deep down I know I'm not in control, but it's so hard to let go...Anyone else have this problem?

[MrsGart]

God is in control. How do we not obsess? God is in control. How do we keep from becoming depressed? God is in control. What if I never get pregnant? God is in control. What do I do with all my anxiety? God is in control. (insert question here) God is in control.
God gave Sarah a baby in her very old age. God gave Hannah a baby after she cried out to him (Samuel the prophet). What ever your heart is heavy with today, Close your Eyes, Imagine dropping your heavy burden like a rock into HIS hands. Stop your self when you hear your thoughts taking it back our of His hand and drop it back into His.

He knew you in your Mother's womb. He knows how many hairs there are on your head. If you think He's not here with you right now, your idea of Almight God is too small. God is in contol sister, God is in control.

[AngiSc]

Hi. I;m Angela. Diagnosed 3 weeks ago. Reading all that I can, learning all that I can and trying to get my feet wet in this community. I'm married and have a 2 1/2 ds that took 6 yrs to conceive. I can't wait to really get to know you ladies.

[Zinnia06]

I have had no computer up until now! UGH!! Maybe I can get this thread going again!! :p

[Louise26]

Tersa,

Thank you for sharing your story. I was just diagnosised with PCOS and I too realized all along that something was wrong when I could never establish a regular period and at times I would not have one for 6 or 7 months and then have two in the same month.I am believing that God will give me the desires of my heart which my biggest desire is to someday have 2-4 beautiful babies and that is what I desire more than anything apart from my relationship with God. I have had one miscarriage and one stillbirth. This struggle has truely made me fall that much more in love with my Savior and King. I know that I am more than a conquer in Christ and that I can do all things through Him who strengthens me.
Louise26

[Cita]

Hey, my name is Mayte and im new to this. For nearly 6 years I've had a gut feeling I had PCOS, so I did my research. Yet, whenever i brought up PCOS to my PCP he would brush it off, understandable since i was 14/15 yrs old i suppose. However, after going 1 year without a menstrual cycle and then finally i get it and 3 months later im in the hospital due to a ruptured ovarian cyst, and my acne and hair growth only getting worst , not to mention my husband and I have not used any form of conception for almost 2 years. i decided to see a specialist. After doing a pelvic u/s and an examination she informed me that she belives I hav PCOS but she is waiting for my labs to confirm it. Honestly, if I am dx with it i think I would be relieved more then anything to finally know what is causing my body to be "out of wack". Well i just wanted to say hi, hope you ladies are doing well. May God bless you all <3

[MrsGart]

Hi Mayte:
Welcome! I'm so glad you finally have a diagnosis. I went for years mentioning symptoms. They kept telling me that I would be fine if I just lost weight. Meanwhile I've got a huge problem with Insulin Resistance & even ended up with fatty liver infiltrates.
So the fact that you have been diagnosed young (relatively speaking) gives you lots of options. There are a number of treatments (discuss with your doctor) and from what I'm reading in this thread, many women with PCOS are having babies (this wasn't the case when I was young). So how can we pray for you today, Meyte? God bless you and keep you. Mrs Gart